“Trying to make everyone happy makes no one happy”
I’m not sure who originally said that, but I couldn’t agree with it more.
If you spend your life trying to please and make everyone around you happy, you’ll end up leading a miserable life, plus no one will be happy because it’s impossible to make everyone happy.
But why do we sometimes go down that path and attempt to make everyone around us happy?
Is it fueled by insecurity, an intense spiritual passion or compassion?
Is it because we believe we’ll only be happy if everyone around us is?
Is it this certain need we have to feel that we are a source of happiness for those around us?
Is it because we don’t want anyone to be angry at us or dislike us?
Is it because we care so much?
Whatever the reason is, it’s unrealistic and will only backfire on us; we’ll end up over-thinking every single thing, having to act and be unnatural, putting ourselves in sticky situations, stressing ourselves out…etc.
And what’s for sure is that we’ll never be happy because instead of focusing on what we can do to make our lives better and be happier, we’re focusing on a bigger impossible job of making other people happy.
In the end of the day, every one of us leads one life, and that is already too short to spend ignoring ourselves and trying to make others happy instead.
Of course focusing on ourselves and putting our happiness as our first priority doesn’t mean we should be selfish and mean, in fact whenever we can make someone happy we should, but we just shouldn’t put it before our own happiness.
Well, that’s what I think…